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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)

submitted 3 days ago by carotte@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/curatedtumblr@sh.itjust.works

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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[+] BussyCat@lemmy.world -22 points 3 days ago (3 children)

The conflation is the problem but in my experience it is more people who are blaming the former when it is clearly the latter

Like if you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice and also complain you can’t find a nice women to settle down that is a skill issue

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 25 points 3 days ago

if you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice and also complain you can’t find a nice women to settle down

That's an absurd stereotype that obviously doesn't apply to the vast majority of lonely men, though.

Maybe the skill issue is in not realizing that.

P.S. Also, there are plenty of married couples who are both MAGA, and I myself had no shortage of single MAGA women popping up on dating apps when I was single who made it crystal clear they weren't interested in anyone who wasn't also MAGA, also anti-vax, etc.

P.P.S. 'Your body my choice' was a meme for like three weeks.

[–] ElPsyKongroo@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So tell me this then: When people hear that a man hasn't dated, why is the first thing that comes to your mind the assumption that "you walk around with a maga hat and tell women your body my choice"? Is that the only explanation? Is there no nuance in the world? If a man has never dated, is he automatically MAGA and anti-abortion?

[–] BussyCat@lemmy.world -2 points 2 days ago

It’s not the first thought, however when a person blames society for all their problems instead of making an effort to improve themselves that screams maga

Plenty of people struggle to date for a variety of reasons but the people out there calling not get laid the “male loneliness epidemic” are generally not the most normal people

[–] obbeel@mander.xyz 2 points 2 days ago

What about all the MAGA who got women? What did they do right?