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I don't understand how anyone past puberty can't understand it. Can't really speak for women but stuff that gives me a boner is great. Its like food that cause you salivate. You want to eat that food and you want to fuck that person. The main difference is if your from a modern country that does well then you have access to almost any kind of food you might want. I could totally see if in a situation where you have limited food options having pictures of a really decked out burger or burrito as big as your head or stuffed pizza or cheesy beef or hotdog dragged through the garden. Sorry I could go on but I uh. Really need to do something so gotta run.
Some people are ace? Not that I'm against people having the right to make NSFW stuff (the idea of "NSFW" is pretty heavily influenced by advertisers to begin with, outside of NSFL stuff like gore and trauma) but this analogy makes it seem like you can't live without having or imagining sex at all times. I personally don't get enjoyment out of being horny at all.
The real problem is that payment processors shouldn't be able to block transactions for things that aren't illegal, full stop. The recent precedents just let Visa, MasterCard, and PayPal label anything with themes they don't like (LGBTQ+, gender equality, body dysmorphia and other issues related to physical appearance, etc.) as suggestive content and censor it. That shouldn't be legal anywhere claiming to have freedom of speech/expression (but they don't seem to mind supporting hate speech!)
Even ace people get horny and enjoy porn. The biological function isn't gone. There's just lack of attraction.
This said as an ace person.
Am I attracted to the sexual characteristics or appearance of another? No not really
Do I get horny and have the urge to reproduce? Yes. I'm a functional adult mammal with a brain.
That's fine? I'm not trying to gatekeep being ace at all nor speak for all ace people. That just doesn't match my experience and I doubt I'm completely 100% alone in saying that.
I don't see why you feel that way. Do you imagine eating all the time. You think of food when your hungry and you think of sex when your horny and either one can be elicited by your senses.
I generally don't think about sex unless it's relevant to a discussion so the analogy kind of breaks down for me. But when you liken something to food, the immediate thought coming to my mind is that you can't live without it.
I guess if you really wanted to stick with the food metaphor from my perspective it would be more like: "If all food tasted bland to you and you didn't have to care about the nutrients/hunger would you still eat?" Taking the analogy past its breaking point, my experience is like that question but if the world fundamentally judges you based on your favorite food and inserts generic barely related food pictures into every show or movie you try to watch.
I mean I don't know for certain but I think this is just a matter of which of us is more unusual in our outlook. I idea of only thinking about it when its relevant to discussion is foreign to me. Sure you don't have sex as often as you eat but its possible and would be quite the realtionship. Sex is as natural and as part of life to me as making a meal. I mean food is shoved into all sorts of media, often as back door advertising, and there are all sorts of judgements related to diet around.