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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

The number of predatory men in the dating scene in the USA would horrify the few decent men who show up. There are very many women who would rather be trapped in a room with a bear than with a random man.

At least when a bear attacks us does no one doubt that it happened to us; the same cannot be said about men.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Wait until you find out about the order of magnitude of greater doubt there is when a man is attacked by a woman.

Signed, a male who was molested by a female as a child, then told it's literally "impossible" for rape to happen in that direction when he futilely sought support.

[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Well I am sorry that you experienced that. No one should ever go through that.

That is why decent people when there is a power dynamic involved should always side with the more vulnerable party and ensure that they are safe.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

I don't even say one side has to be automatically "sided with" (because that's how you get stuff like the Brian Banks situation), but, at the very least, don't dismiss either side out of hand as if it literally cannot have been true, you know?

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com -4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Dude, youre bringing some "exactly that kind of person" energy throughout this thread....

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm bringing empathy for a demographic that's generally starved of it, and frustration toward those who have none for it, is all.

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com -3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sure thing dude.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Dude, youre bringing some "exactly the same kind of person as OOP" energy throughout this thread...