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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 32 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

This is gonna sound crazy but I've had some incredibly lonely sex where I haven't felt connected, intimate or seen by my partner.

[–] turtlesareneat@discuss.online 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

omg welcome to being gay, yeah you can have sex instantly 24/7 but it's absolutely soulless and soul destroying in a lot of cases. Intimacy is what people what but can't figure out how to have. That's true in every form of relationship.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

you can have sex instantly 24/7

Fuck me. Conservatives told me gay was a choice. And here I picked the wrong team.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

omg welcome to being gay, yeah you can have sex instantly 24/7

Either you're male, things have changed a LOT since I found a steady partner, or I'm really bad at this.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

I don't think that sounds crazy at all. I wish that this sentiment were discussed more freely in society, because I hate the stereotype that men only care about pure physicality in sex (and the corresponding stereotype that women only care about emotional connection).

[–] StupidBrotherInLaw@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Same, it was like a one night stand but with someone I had known and slept with before. I call it the n+1 night stand.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

What? That's perfectly normal. First two times I had sex I was like, "THIS is what all the hoopla was about?!" Gf and I met at 17 and fucked like rabid wolverines. She had had the same experience! Two guys before me, meh.

Felt that way with my ex-wife. Woke one day, realized I was lonely as hell, with a wife and two kids! Thank god she left. Took the kids, had to fight like hell to get 'em back, but thank god she's gone. Proceeded to have many fine lovers over the next few years, landed my wife, could not be happier.