Off My Chest
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I am looking for mods!
1. The "good" part of our community means we are pro-empathy and anti-harassment. However, we don't intend to make this a "safe space" where everyone has to be a saint. Sh*t happens, and life is messy. That's why we get things off our chests.
2. Bigotry is not allowed. That includes racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, and religiophobia. (If you want to vent about religion, that's fine; but religion is not inherently evil.)
3. Frustrated, venting, or angry posts are still welcome.
4. Posts and comments that bait, threaten, or incite harassment are not allowed.
5. If anyone offers mental, medical, or professional advice here, please remember to take it with a grain of salt. Seek out real professionals if needed.
6. Please put NSFW behind NSFW tags.
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Not on a car forum. That's straight up asking for trouble.
Ok, but isn't that the problem? Expecting misogyny and accepting misogyny are not the same.
Like, if you knew someone who was racist, and then they assumed you were their race, and you corrected them that you were not, and then they start in with bigotry and shit, that doesn't make you the problem, even if you did know that he was a bigot and going to be shitty and hateful.
Nobody should have to pretend to be something they aren't to avoid harassment.
I’m not justifying it - just explaining why it happens. If you walk into a male-dominated space and start lecturing people about gender pronouns, this is the reaction you’re going to get. If they’d stuck to talking about cars, it wouldn’t have happened in the first place.
It’s also worth noting that some languages don’t have gendered pronouns at all - Finnish, for example. We use the same pronoun for men and women, so when I say “he” in English, I might be referring to a man or just a person in general. I know that’s not grammatically correct in English, but for me - and probably for a lot of others - “he” doesn’t automatically mean male. It’s just how the pronoun from our native language maps over.
Listen, lady, if you're ok with men talking down to you because you lack testosterone, then I'm not going to tell you how to live.
I thought I was being perfectly polite in my response. I don't understand how this place can be so full of jerks.
Well this forum is primarily men, so maybe coming here and being a woman, you should have expected that?
No, this is just you being mean on purpose - and a hypocrite on top of it.
I don’t get what you gain from acting like a total jerk toward complete strangers who haven’t been hostile to you in any way. There was absolutely no reason to make it personal, but that’s where you chose to take it. I hope you’re satisfied with yourself now. Sure showed me.
I'm not being mean, I'mexplaining why people are being mean to you. I'm not responsible for your feelings, and this is the treatment you should expect being a woman coming into a traditionally masculine space. If you stuck to the topic at hand, nobody would be correcting you.