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on the male loneliness epidemic (infosec.pub)
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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

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[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago (4 children)

Apparently some guys seem to have problems dating women who are better educated than them for some reason. I don’t get it and neither does my husband but it is a thing.

[–] Flamekebab@piefed.social 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Actively wanting to date someone less intelligent than oneself feels like predatorial behaviour.

[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

The number of predatory men in the dating scene in the USA would horrify the few decent men who show up. There are very many women who would rather be trapped in a room with a bear than with a random man.

At least when a bear attacks us does no one doubt that it happened to us; the same cannot be said about men.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

Wait until you find out about the order of magnitude of greater doubt there is when a man is attacked by a woman.

Signed, a male who was molested by a female as a child, then told it's literally "impossible" for rape to happen in that direction when he futilely sought support.

[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Well I am sorry that you experienced that. No one should ever go through that.

That is why decent people when there is a power dynamic involved should always side with the more vulnerable party and ensure that they are safe.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

I don't even say one side has to be automatically "sided with" (because that's how you get stuff like the Brian Banks situation), but, at the very least, don't dismiss either side out of hand as if it literally cannot have been true, you know?

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com -4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Dude, youre bringing some "exactly that kind of person" energy throughout this thread....

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I'm bringing empathy for a demographic that's generally starved of it, and frustration toward those who have none for it, is all.

[–] curbstickle@lemmy.dbzer0.com -3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Sure thing dude.

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Dude, youre bringing some "exactly the same kind of person as OOP" energy throughout this thread...

[–] Sergio@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I can't believe people are downvoting you, I totally heard something similar about some guys who don't like dating women who make more money than they do... It's just kinda funny to see "PhD" sticking out like that...

[–] damnedfurry@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

And then, on the other hand, are women who don't like dating men who don't make more money than they do: https://nypost.com/2019/09/25/women-are-struggling-to-find-men-who-make-as-much-money-as-they-do/

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I haven't got along well with any of the women with PHDs I've known but it wasn't a very large sample size for me to write them off as a whole. If I ran into too many more that had the same personality type as the ones I met I might consider it though because they were frustrating to be around. It wasn't that they were smarter than me, it was that they wouldn't even listen to me on subjects I was more knowledgeable about.

[–] bacon_pdp@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Sounds like they were just inconsiderate people. I have seen that same behavior in people who didn’t even finish High school.

[–] LiveLM@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

She has higher education -> She earns more -> "She can't be earning more than me, I'm supposed to provide for the household!!!!!"

I assume it's something along those lines?

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 2 days ago

Perhaps it's a self worth thing. If she's making more than you, what reason does she need to keep you around if someone else comes along?