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I don't think it's that bad anymore, but there definitely was a time during the late 2010s where the man-hating got a bit too much in my opinion. Maybe I was just exposed to it more due being in an industry that attracts a lot of hyper idealistic people who are oddly comfortable being very antagonistic toward white men especially. According to my boyfriend, he hasn't really seen or experienced any of the behavior I was witnessing evolving over the years but he is also not really part of "my world" so to speak.
I think it very much depend on what environment you're in. Just like there has been a lot of focus on women harassed at their male dominated workplace. It's definitely real and they definitely have experienced that, but it doesn't mean it is a 100% universal experience. I personally haven't experienced harassment from men in the workplace, but there definitely are women out there who haven't been so lucky. It really comes down to what the work culture is and whether it is built on mutual respect or bully-like hierarchies. The latter is the type of work environment I will avoid like the plague until I die.
Anyway, I am sure that there are white men out there who feel antagonized at work, but it's not universal and it is most likely in very specific areas where the work culture adheres to the most extreme fringes of leftwing ideology. Could also be in the opposite of that if the white man doesn't live up to whatever they think makes a man a man in the extreme rightwing workplaces these days.
As someone who identified as a man during that time, I think it did. I distinctly remember someone saying "kill all men" a lot during that era. There was another that bothered me, but it felt more like she'd had a bad string of romantic partners and would say "men are trash", but it always felt targeted more towards bad men. Either way, the second never really made me uncomfortable. Or at least not in the same way.
I find it odd that during a time period when things (at least in the US) are leaning more and more right that now is the time men feel like they need to walk on egg shells.
The number of goofy shit I witnessed and at times was subjected to as well because I'm white, yeah. People acted like all that shit on social media never happened irl, but in very specific circles, it 100% did.
That said, I fully agree with you that things flipped when trump got into office the second time.
I just can't wait for a timeline where it doesn't have to flip-flop between two extremes and we can just coexist. Call me naive, but I do believe that things will eventually even themselves out and we can take the good developments from the 2010s and apply them in a less extreme way moving forward. Whatever positive we will be able to find from this second round of Trump, I hope we can apply that too. Mainly how not to run a country and how not to handle geopolitics.
It will probably take me a few decades before I will forgive America for allowing a president to threaten to annex part og my country's territory as well as intimidating and belittling Zelenskyj on world wide TV.