this post was submitted on 30 Jul 2025
47 points (91.2% liked)

Mental Health

5628 readers
355 users here now

Welcome

This is a safe place to discuss, vent, support, and share information about mental health, illness, and wellness.

Thank you for being here. We appreciate who you are today. Please show respect and empathy when making or replying to posts.

If you need someone to talk to, @therapygary@lemmy.blahaj.zone has kindly given his signal username to talk to: TherapyGary13.12

Rules

The rules for posting and commenting, besides the rules defined here for lemmy.world, are as follows:

  1. No promoting paid services/products.
  2. Be kind and civil. No bigotry/prejudice either.
  3. No victim blaming. Nor giving incredibly simplistic solutions (i.e. You have ADHD? Just focus easier.)
  4. No encouraging suicide, no matter what. This includes telling someone to commit homicide as "dragging them down with you".
  5. Suicide note posts will be removed, and you will be reached out to in private.
  6. If you would like advice, mention the country you are in. (We will not assume the US as the default.)

If BRIEF mention of these topics is an important part of your post, please flag your post as NSFW and include a (trigger warning: suicide, self-harm, death, etc.)in the title so that other readers who may feel triggered can avoid it. Please also include a trigger warning on all comments mentioning these topics in a post that was not already tagged as such.

Partner Communities

To partner with our community and be included here, you are free to message the current moderators or comment on our pinned post.

Becoming a Mod

Some moderators are mental health professionals and some are not. All are carefully selected by the moderation team and will be actively monitoring posts and comments. If you are interested in joining the team, you can send a message to @fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com.

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com
modfxomt@lemmy.world
Flagstaff@programming.dev
fxomt@piefed.zip
47
what is something you've learned as you got older and wiser? (piefed.social)
submitted 3 days ago by peregrin5@piefed.social to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
20 comments fedilink hide all child comments
 

mine is that people in general are bad and terrible and my ideal life would be as a hermit with very little interaction with anyone except my animals and plants and no impact from people or governments and never reading the news.

when i was young, i was optimistic about the future of the human race but reality has bitch-smacked my inner child and taught me the truth and it keeps getting confirmed the older and older I get.

so what lessons have you learned as you've gotten older?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[โ€“] TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.ca 30 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Some people aren't even worth the energy and time to be angry at. They're not even worth the energy it takes to think about. The sooner you stop spending your energy on them the better your life will be.

Secondly: The vast majority of people you encounter couldn't give less of a crap about you. This one has taken me a long time to process as someone with social anxiety problems, but once you internally acknowledge this concept then life becomes a lot easier. Dress how you want, talk how you want, do what you want - people really aren't going to care. And if they do, they'll forget in 10 minutes.

[โ€“] etherphon@midwest.social 3 points 3 days ago

This has taken me a lot of time and I'm still working on it, because I really do or did care about other people. I want everyone to do well, I want everyone to thrive, but this has most definitely not been my experience. I feel like when I was younger I cared less which is odd and it seems to be against most people's experience.