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Isn't that true for any gender?
Yeah, but women (and feminine presenting people in general) are the ones who are told they are being rude and overreacting when they try to voice this.
I do think women being rude for no reason is wildly misunderepresented just because a man really has no recourse. Last time I was in Costa Rica(my country of birth) I had been socializing and getting to know people and danced with a couple strangers, got some Instagrams, etc. it was a dance club in a very touristy area so it had a mix of locals and foreigners. I said hi to a girl that was in a corner by herself and she screamed "get the fuck away from me." I had never been spoken to like that by a stranger and I wanted to tell her that's not an appropriate response when you're visiting a country that isn't yours(she was clearly Asian-American). If she had spoken like that to someone who's mentally unstable or is one of those "scary locals" she's probably afraid of she might end up in a dumpster somewhere. I just walked away and tried to forget about it, didn't even respond to her, but I still think about it from time to time. A lot of the time, your perceptions will influence reality and if you live your life with the assumption that guys are creeps well you might end up being rude to someone who has nothing to lose.
No. What happened here is that she was not comfortable with your presence and you simply do not know why. You have no idea why she was in a corner by herself. You have no idea why she told you to get the fuck away.
What authority do you think you have that should allow you to tell some stranger in a club what an appropriate way to voice their desire for you to go away is?
This is a horrifying way to express this sentiment. Like, "she might end up in a dumpster somewhere" honestly sounds like you've thought about it. If this is how you come across in general then I can understand why some people may not feel comfortable.
Feminists will do everything except take accountability lol. Imagine if the roles were reversed and a girl said hi to me and my response was "get the fuck away from me." You would say that I shouldn't be somewhere that I'm not comfortable in.
The whole "you have thought about it" shit is weak too. This is what your feminist afraid of everything bubble causes, for innocent people to get caught in the wake of you not being able to be an adult and simply express your concerns like a grown up. https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/crime/community-grieves-slain-uber-driver-tahirou-diallo/287-b807d567-0333-4f61-821f-1e2da8c8e18f
The biggest comfort is that you're in the minority despite your holier than thou attitude. Keep living in fear of shadows, the world isn't as ugly as you think it is except for people like you.
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No, I wouldn't say you shouldn't be somewhere that you're not comfortable in.
The rest of your anti-feminist shadow boxing exercise just serves to illustrate my point.
"Feminists will do anything except take accountability" TIL you're a feminist.
Also this is a women only community, kindly go elsewhere to be a Nice Guy.