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What minor change can people make to help their disabled colleagues and friends? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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July is disability pride. What's something small people can do to help the disabled people around them?

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[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 week ago

I generally find colleagues flap and make negative assumptions, sometimes to jaw dropping levels. There's also a tendency to disclose my disability to 4235433 people often BEHIND MY BACK because they flap and think the world needs to know. It destroys trust, it's patronising and career damaging. Just ask what if anything i need and do that, the end.

Day to day life it veers between people just not getting it and people patronising me. I'm an adult, I'm perfectly capable of asking if I need anything and I do NOT like people making unsolicited offers of help that are really making horribly negative assumptions. There's people who don't get it, eg as I'm neurodiverse I can't find my way places. People argue with me on this and tell me I can but I FUCKING CAN'T. If I could I'd have learned it already. Friends expect me to assist them with route planning and it's impossible for me. I just can't.