Demisexuality

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How did you found out that you're demisexual? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by Beagle@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/demisexuality@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I've to be honest haven't heard about demisexuality before, I had a friend who was demisexual and I talked to him about the way I felt and my experiences, he pointed me into this direction and I did further research on this topic and that's ultimately how I got here ^^ What about you?

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[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

We found out when we the body was in its 20s, we believe. However, if we had heard of the term before or had positive, or any explicit, representation then it would have been very obvious based on what we said and did in how we related to other people, celebrities, and characters etc.

We're not at all attracted to others in any way unless we have a strong emotional connection to them and even then, it both needs to be maintained and we have a boundary of at least a year before we'll do anything so we can see if somebody actually cares about us and so we can keep ourselves safe. For this reason and others we're very big on consent in all our relationships with all things to do with them.

We are also uninterested in most media where the characters don't talk things out and do their best to connect to and understand each other... well, we are, but we don't go into it for that if the writers couldn't be bothered and it's very frustrating to see characters behave in ways where they somehow 'fall' for each other but keep making mistakes, having misunderstandings, and don't grow together and as individuals or whatever.

[–] Beagle@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

We found out when we the body was in its 20s, we believe. However, if we had heard of the term before or had positive, or any explicit, representation then it would have been very obvious based on what we said and did in how we related to other people, celebrities, and characters etc.

Yea, I can understand that very well, I've also found out as I was 20 years old, would've also had realized it way sooner if I knew before what I now know.

it both needs to be maintained and we have a boundary of at least a year before we’ll do anything so we can see if somebody actually cares about us and so we can keep ourselves safe. For this reason and others we’re very big on consent in all our relationships with all things to do with them.

I think this is a good way to approach it :)

We are also uninterested in most media where the characters don’t talk things out and do their best to connect to and understand each other… well, we are, but we don’t go into it for that if the writers couldn’t be bothered and it’s very frustrating to see characters behave in ways where they somehow ‘fall’ for each other but keep making mistakes, having misunderstandings, and don’t grow together and as individuals or whatever.

Oh, I can understand that very well. I've been avoiding media with a focus on romantic or similar all together due a past harmful relationship and I tbh don't miss it. Especially since I know have a much better understanding of how relationships actually work than before.