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Its a big source of cognitive dissonance to be told as a cis/het/white/male person that you have all these advantages in life (which can be true) while you still struggle in life/society.
Then they get told "we need to level the playing field so the world is not systemically hostile (which it is) to others outside of that small subset of the population". This can be interpreted as we are taking your benefits and giving them to someone else which is really scary and threatening when you already feel marginalized and have been told that those people want your stuff.
The missing element with these pushes for more equality or fixing major systemic issues is following up and explaining that we are also going to work on the systemic problems you are facing too or saying that the changes will uplift you too.
Will that fix all of the hostile isolated right wing young white guys? No, there are deeper issues at play there but acknowledging that there is a problem for them too is a good start to catch them before they fall down that hole.
True.
The problem is that equity efforts inherently disadvantage white men. There is a target goal to hire more of X that isn't white men in order to establish equity. It establishes a system that is inherently rigged against white men and it is obvious why white men would be unhappy with that.
For young white men to accept that disadvantage would require the disadvantage to be meaningless. The system needs to be fixed so that it isn't rigged against anybody and the changes need to happen slowly or you get the whiplash we are seeing.
For that to be true, there would have to be statistics to bear that out. And yet somehow, white men are still employed disproportionately and earning disproportionately, even when controlling for education (which women far exceed men at).
The whole 'anti-dei' thing is entirely driven by perception, not facts. But since there is a whole industry built around keeping young white men angry and telling them that having their privilege stripped is actually disenfranchisement, the trend will continue.
I think you'll really like this, touches on almost every point you made:
https://www.cracked.com/blog/5-helpful-answers-to-societys-most-uncomfortable-questions
(from 2015 when Cracked was still good)
Jason Pargin is one of my favorite writers. I'll check it out for sure.