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I think this post is evidence of top-notch parenting. You've figure out you're in a tricky moment, and have started putting in the work to navigate it, and you'll be prepared whatever eventuality.
Did the pronouns revelation seem like a big deal to Miniest? There's a good chance it felt like a bit of a "coming out" -- and safety in your (conscious and subconscious) reaction will be closely being searched for. As long as Miniest knows nothing else changes, there's still beds to be made and dinner to help prepare, you'll be good.
I did get the impression it was a bit of a coming out of sorts, but possibly the first time she's been asked the "what/how do you like to identify yourself in terms of gender" question. She has a very small group of friends, and from what she's said they're the kids who would identify differently from "the norm" and wouldn't be as surprised as me to hear her say it. We've talked in the past about how she's most likely described as gender fluid. I hadn't heard her call herself a boy before. You're right about nothing else changing though, I'm right by her side through this journey and yes, the dinner must still be made!