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What are the unknowable traits of one's self? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by j4k3@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Sorry if abstract meta questions are not your thing. I find it interesting to discover other perspective views.
I was in the shower with the thought, "Is any narcissist self aware of their narcissism?"
Maybe meta awareness of narcissism is like intelligence, beauty, or hearing one's own voice. We may infer information based upon feedback, but lack an objective frame of reference.

On another level, I am aware of how I am abstract in functional thought, like inferencing across many unrelated spaces, and big-picture meaning. I'm aware of my intuition as it relates to others in general, but I'm not aware of my own beauty or intelligence as it contrasts with others.

Are there universal unknowns? Are we always ungrounded in all self perception; only overconfident in our self asserting narratives? What are your thoughts? Are you intelligently beautiful and teflon to the accusation of narcissism? Perhaps charisma is the ultimate superhero mask.

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don't think we ever really know our own traits. We have psychological defense mechanisms that prevent us from thinking that we're the problem.

Awareness helps. If you are reflecting and thinking about how could I have dealt with this situation better? You may be able to find toxic patterns in your own behavior that you previously wrote off as "People always overreact when I tell them to do things!"

A good place to start is the old saying "if you ran into one asshole, he's probably an asshole, if EVERYONE is an asshole, you're probably the asshole."

[–] Maiq@lemy.lol 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

An unexamined life is not worth living. - Socrates

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This one is very wise.

[–] Maiq@lemy.lol 3 points 1 week ago

In the immortal words of Socrates, "I drank what?".