Fediverse memes

You are a good actor, but I was speaking here about bad actors that choose to do things differently. Small communities by their nature definitely have differing dynamics, especially in situations such as when the original founder is the only or primary mod, or the chief poster. Communities change dynamics as they age though, and the question of ownership gets much more murky then.

Reddit mods can absolutely silently remove posts without telling the poster. I don't know why you think they can't.

REALLY? I was a mod of a couple of different small to medium sized communities and I never heard about that. I definitely would have tested it too, by removing my own content and seeing if I received a notification event. Then again, Reddit has changed since the Rexodus so perhaps that is what you mean? Or shadow banning? (But that was done by admins, not mere mods.) And there was most definitely a modmail on Reddit, whereas on Lemmy there is no such method of connection provided.

But now I feel like you are ignoring what I said: no you can't DM a mod, on Lemmy, when the modlog merely says that the action was done by a "mod" - unless you message every single mod listed in the entire community, one by one. Which for a small community with one mod is of course easy, but some of the largest communities have much larger mod teams, showing that just because something works under one set of conditions does not imply that it will work under all of them. Anyway DM mods definitely is not the same as a dedicated modmail. Perhaps I am not the best one to communicate this to you but you will see over time as you notice how Lemmy works on the large scale.