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AITA for telling my 7-year old niece that I can see her underwear? (lemm.ee)
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My brother (40M) is a commissioned officer in the US Air Force. He is happily married to a Korean woman that he fell in love with while he was stationed in South Korea, and they have a beautiful 7-year daughter named Hana. Hana and I (35M) happen to be very close, and I always like to find ways to make her laugh. She is a very adorable puppy of a child.

My brother and his family live in the States these days. One Saturday this past June, I was entrusted to look after Hana for the day; my brother and his wife both happened to be very busy with work on that Saturday. So I had a fun day arranged for my little niece. We live pretty close to an idyllic tourist location, so my niece and I spent the day there, enjoying the beautiful scenery and having a good time.

While we were visiting the tourist spot, Hana and I climbed a long set of stairs inside a building. Hana was walking ahead of me, and she was far-enough up the stairs that I could see her underwear (she was wearing skirts that day). I got really embarrassed, and thankfully my niece and I were the only ones in that part of the building, so nobody else saw her underwear. When we finished climbing the stairs, I spoke to Hana, in a child-friendly manner, about what she just did, and why it was wrong for her to not mind her private parts and the fact that her underwear was showing. She started protesting, and she even told me "hajima" (meaning "stop" in Korean), so I just told her that eventually, she’ll understand what I was telling her. Our entire talk lasted less than 5 minutes. And then we went on with our day.

Two weeks after my day with Hana, I got a very angry knock on my door. It was my brother and his wife. My niece had told her parents all about my little lecture. I was told that Hana is nowadays very self-conscious, and she gets anxious whenever she’s around strangers. My brother really gave me the drill-sergeant treatment. He and his wife yelled at me nonstop. It was mortifying.

AITA?

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