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How should we treat Imperfect Allies? (piefed.social)
submitted 1 week ago by Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social to c/transgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hi,

Not sure if this is the right place to post this, I'm specifically curious to see how blahaj.zone, feels about this topic.

I recently made a post Discussion: Do Not Reject Imperfect Allies

In this post I open up the discussion as to how we should treat imperfect allies, and made some crude examples one of which relates to people who are Pro-Trans but not fully.

What do you feel is the best way to approach these scenarios, and influence positive change?

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

What do you actually want to know, here? How we should approach or treat allies who aren't "fully" pro-trans? It might help to expand a little on ways they are imperfect allies, since context makes such a big difference.

For example, an ally that is "live and let live" but doesn't think trans women are really women is a different situation than an ally who believes trans women are women but who has "concerns" about minors having access to gender-affirming care like puberty blockers, and both of those are different than an ally who is not sure they understand non-binary identities or struggles with using they/them pronouns for someone but is trying anyway, and so on.

I think Ada's response was excellent, but was focused on justifying the Blahaj Zone's no tolerance moderation policy, and I'm not sure that's what you wanted to discuss or not.

This article might be a starting point:

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/the-moderate-case-against-trans-youth

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

To be fair, they were asking how blahaj.zone feels about the topic!

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I think your response makes the most sense, it feels like Blahaj has gained a reputation of intolerance, but OP seems a little confused and maybe thinks it's about the community here rather than a specific moderation policy choice, and that the community thinks the moderation policy reflects how we should treat imperfect allies generally?

It's not clear, so while I think defending the moderation policy is the best immediate response to the question (since it responds to our reputation), I wanted to give OP an opportunity to parse this in other directions, in case challenging our policies was not the intent.