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I liked having my daughter do chores with me. She had less time and energy to get into something she shouldn't. With a few age-appropriate rules ("only mommy can wash the sharp knives"), it's not so bad.
She is older, and does an adequate job without supervision most of the time. I've been giving her some tips every now and then to help her grow from "adequate" to "really good."
The article is right, though. It can take a LOT longer to get anything done, but I feel like it has paid off so far.
I just finished reading the article, and I absolutely remember not wanting my toddler to "help" with chores because I knew I would have to follow behind him to "re-do" them and it would take twice as long.
But a few years in, I was able to let those feelings go and was able to give my child space to learn. With more practice it gets easier, and now I have a 12 year old who cleans up after himself relatively easily. He's in charge of his own bathroom even. I phrased cleaning up after ourselves as personal responsibility, because thats what it is.
I feel bad for not letting him help as a toddler and wish I approached it differently then, if only to help his self esteem. Yet I am glad by the time he was 7/8 I could give up that control and give him space to learn. Better late than never! Now if only I could get him to stop holding the broom like a hockey stick lol
It's really nice to see your parenting efforts pay off with the kids learning self reliance and responsibility.