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What are signs that you may be more attractive than you think you are? (lemmy.sdf.org)

submitted 1 week ago by randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Saw this one on Reddit (don’t judge haha) and thought I would see what the collective of Lemmy thought!!

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[–] meekah@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Every person I’ve ever dated asked me out, but I just assumed that was normal for anyone who wasn’t absolutely hideous.

features of mine (strong jaw, ability to grow a thick lumberjack beard, being taller than most of our friend group, etc.)

Assuming you're a man, it is absolutely not normal to be asked out by women. It is starting to happen more and more, but living in berlin, being surrounded by very left wing people, I still only rarely hear about a woman initiating a romantic relationship.

[–] nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

that seems like a fair assumption to make considering he mentioned his wife bragging that she had snagged an attractive man :3

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Yeah I'm not saying I don't get why he'd think that. I'm just saying its far from the Norm.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Before online dating I only dated women who were clearly hitting on me or asked me out. 80s movies scared me about being "that guy".