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i'm experiencing gender confusion, can someone help me out? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 weeks ago by Tweekerz@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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of course, i need help, not for someone who can say definitely, because only i can.

ok, so i'm born female, but i don't identify as such. honestly, i think i align myself somewhere on the "man" part of the spectrum, but i feel very "soft" and "tender", i guess that means i don't feel a sense of hypermasculinity or a strong sense of gender.

part of me seems to be male aligned and the other part just feels soft like i say, no specific gender. rather, i'd say a gender but not one that counts as male or female. since i can't express my gender, i say i'm just me, but i do get curious what gender i would count as. i'm just me in the end, but still.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 weeks ago

Eh, there's no single term for that "in between" zone of the gender slider. Non binary tends to be the best blanket term, imo, but the reality is that it's the best we got.

Fwiw though, softness and tenderness are part of manhood too. Those aren't gendered traits, though it is true that there seems to be a proclivity towards them on the feminine end.