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Edit: OOP is probably fine, the issue was mostly caused by my own problems rather than it being something the post-maker needs to correct. I'll leave the original comment below if you still want to read it.
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This post is really frustrating: it assumes that having self-hatred means that you have superhuman expectations and then uses that to give unwanted advice and judgements.The OOP is using a subset of a category to assume about the larger category, it's an overgeneralization and hurtful when applied to real people.
spoiler this comment is unfinished I struggled making this comment due to brain block and having trouble thinking through the reason I felt hurt by the post, and I was forced to leave the comment unfinished when I stopped being able to logically think about it entirely (I have severe executive dysfunction)
There was supposed to be a paragraph in the middle pointing out the differences in the common definition of self-hatred and their assumptions:
This is an important thing to leave out, but I didn't want to waste all the time I spent writing the comment by deleting it and I really wanted to mention that this felt hurtful to me blargh :::
I understand where you come from, but the oop literally states "a lot of", so it's about a subset, not the whole group.
And it's still good advice to remember we're just humans imho.
You're right, I think what happened when I wrote that comment was that reading the post triggered a sore spot of mine, (that being self-hatred caused by disability) and I tried to rationalize that as being a fault of the poster rather than it being a fault of my reaction to it.
I appreciate your reply.
Hope you're doing better!