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try meditation. contrary to what we're taught from birth, you CAN decide for yourself how you feel. it takes a lot of self-deprogramming, but it's worth the effort. that freedom, and the realization that this might be the only thing in life you DO have control over--the control you think you have over everything else is just an illusion. and that's fine
Do you have resources that teach you the basics of this deprogramming in a pragmatic, fact based way without too much nonsense?
I've always really liked Jon Kabat-Zinn. His secular view of mindfulness is very palatable for folks who aren't as much into the "woo woo" aspects of spirituality. His book Wherever You Go There You Are is a great introduction.
I'd add that part of my personal journey has been from someone who was radically anti-woo woo to someone who without judgment accepts that there are others who choose to practice different types of spirituality from me (as long as they aren't hurting others with their beliefs or practices, I'll mindfully tell those people to get fucked)
he gave a great workshop at a google retreat, back before they went complete scumlord, that i still refer people to
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlIrME_R8uA