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try meditation. contrary to what we're taught from birth, you CAN decide for yourself how you feel. it takes a lot of self-deprogramming, but it's worth the effort. that freedom, and the realization that this might be the only thing in life you DO have control over--the control you think you have over everything else is just an illusion. and that's fine
I work in mental health and have found that in general, people hate this concept. People can have difficulty tolerating the idea that they have any control over their internal experience, because the implication is that they are at least partially responsible for their negative thoughts and emotions. A lot of people will cling like crazy to blaming external factors for their condition in order to protect their ego (though not a conscious process).
The reality is the only person who has control over your internal experience is you, and research shows time and again that people's level of contentment is only partially correlated to factors like income and quality of life, because everyone gets to decide for themselves how to think and feel if they decide to.
Yes yes it's your fault your brain chemistry is imbalanced that'll be $500 pls
Thank you for providing evidence to support my point
I'm sorry I didn't do my homework of copying The Fountainhead ten times please don't yell at me anymore Dr. Medicàl Mōdel 😔
You're really good at cop outs
You could be this awesome too if you'd pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and just been less sad.
It's as simple as listening to literally any psychologist, free purveyors of a completely solved science!
I'm struggling to understand your point. You're 1) accusing me of perpetuating "the medical model," and 2) disagreeing with me that mindfulness meditation (literally a free thing you can do alone in your room) can help people take more control of their internal state? The implication here is you think more people should just be on antidepressant meds for the rest of their lives, I guess?
If your takeaway from everything I've said about mindfulness meditation helping people take some control of their thoughts and feelings is that I'm telling people to "just be less sad," you just aren't listening.
Interesting accusation, considering you just barfed up a bunch of ableist nonsense you heard from someone with a profit motive
There, I deleted the sentence where I said you're regurgitating worn out jokes. Care to respond to any of the actual thoughts I laid out? Or are you still too concerned I've been tainted by Big Buddhism