That post explicitly says it's not a place for debate or participation from users of other instances.
I'd like to respect that but I think events like this need debate and discussion because it helps to develop and evolve the culture of lemmy and the fediverse in general.
The post says:
This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.
I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.
I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.
At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.
I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.
So some feddit.uk user posting some stuff an Blahaj admin didn't like. So the Blahaj admin want to a feddit.uk admin about it. The feddit.uk admin said, "Let the users sort it out.". People liked what as being said. This made the Blahaj admin so mad. They defederated from feddit.uk because over it.
Jesus, Blahaj always been full of crazy people. But this takes the cake. The feddit.uk admin did nothing wrong.
EDIT If you see a post/comment you don't like. You don't ban or defederate. You write an counter to them to get people to be on your side of it.
That's not how it works.
Moderating means filtering out content that is unwelcome or even harmful to your users.
Sure, you can get into it and have a talk, try to modify the persons behaviour. But you don't moderate for the offenders sake. You moderate for your users sake.
So, as a user, you can dive in and talk counterarguments. As a mod, you get rid of that shit ASAP before any of your users suffer the misfortune of having to see it.
Where that line is, depends on who you are, and who your users are. That's the whole beaty of the fediverse. People with different needs can sign up on different instances, with different rules and standards.
Admins can't control the content of other instances, so when another instance refuses to work with you to uphold a given standard, defederation is the only, and correct, recourse.
The whole point of blahaj, is that they go the extra mile to protect vulnerable users, so they can engage with social media on their own terms.
If someone wants unfiltered content, and to engage this stuff directly by "writing counters", they can go create accounts somewhere else. Blahaj isn't for that. It's for people who don't want to, or might not even have the energy, to justify their basic right to exist.
And that's before pointing out that no-one should have to do that in the first place.
Okay, how can you get more to join your side. If you don't have discussions with other people? You can't. Have fun in your echo chamber.
Sometimes being able to have discussions is a privilege. A lot of people just want to exist safely in a space without having to justify this or that. Blahaj seems to be such a space and there are other spaces for people to go if they do want debate and discussion