Dad for a Minute

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If you need a dad figure for help, encouragement or just a hug this is the right community for you.

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tired_n_bored@lemmy.world

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I shouldn't care but I do. My father has been so absent throughout my whole life (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by tired_n_bored@lemmy.world to c/dadforaminute@lemmy.world

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Hi everyone. I created this community here on Lemmy because I wish to give others what I have never felt: the love and the support of a father.

My father is alive and well, but I've always felt like he was dead. I've never received support, love, or hugs but I instead received disapproval, criticisms, insults and high expectations from him. I remember telling kids in elementary school I had no dad.

I am at an age where this should not affect me. I am an adult with his own life but I am unable to feel indifferent to it. His words (or the lack thereof) still affect me. I want him to be proud of me, at least once in my lifetime, and whenever I try to say something that I think will make him proud, I always leave disappointed telling myself "never try again".

My mother was emotionally unavailable too as she has a schizophrenia diagnosis. I don't know what I am looking for by writing this post, maybe just some nice words.

I still wish to be someone's cherished son. Thank you for reading.

Edit: Thank you to all, really. Your thoughtful comments warm up my heart.

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[–] showmeyourkizinti@startrek.website 3 points 3 months ago

You’re doing a good thing here, and I’m proud of you. Asking for anything takes a lot of bravery and you’re showing so much courage doing in front of others like this, and I’m really chuffed to see you do it. And your showing compassion to others by opening up and sharing, I can’t tell you how proud you make us all.