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[–] TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

There are sacrifices, but I don't feel like I've given up my life.

Yeah, I think one has to think about carefully first before having kids, and be prepared what they have to sacrifice. Raising a child is not easy.

I think what this post is portraying is regret that they haven't expected on what sacrifices they have to make to take care of a child. A lot of people want to get married and/or have kids just for the sake of it, because that is what society expect them to do.

[–] vonbaronhans@midwest.social 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Another big part is that so many people have virtually zero support. It's just them and their kids. For the first few years, we lived a 4.5hr drive from any family support. I don't even know how you find and vet babysitters these days.

It doesn't help that we're atheists, so we don't even get the built in community support that a lot of churches provide.

[–] relic_@lemm.ee 3 points 5 months ago

I'm in a similar position. Secular childcare is insanely expensive and the only alternative is church preschool. For what its worth, I don't worry about the more liberal religious schools as kids believe in Santa at that age anyways.