Hi there. Hope you don't mind an interruption to the memes for a message from the heart.
I'm the default player character in America: middle-aged, white, cis, hetero dude. I've always been on the left side of the American political spectrum, and have tried my best to lead a life of openness, kindness, acceptance, and respect for all ways of life.
Throughout high school and college, I knew a fair number of non-hetero people, and was delighted as the fight for gay rights and acceptance finally swung in their direction (at a national level, in America, at least -- I'm not pretending the work is done or things are perfect). I'll admit I didn't know or hadn't thought much about trans people or other parts of the TQ+ parts of the human experience until the last five years ago as they became more visible to us boring people.
How did that happen? Things like pronouns in bios and email signatures. Seeing visible trans people in media and politics. Wondering what that blue and pink flag meant. And even sitting on the sidelines of silly meme communities that seem to have a strong representation of people who live different lives than I do.
All of these little things had a real impact, for me at least. I've now had the pleasure of working with at least 4 trans people over the past 5 years, and one of my friends came out recently as non-binary. It makes me so happy to see people living their lives as their true selves.
I say all of this because our current political reality sucks. And what I say here isn't going to negate the real harm and fear that many people will face. But I want you all to know, no matter what the people in charge say and do: I see you, I love you, and no one can take that away from me or from you. I am not going back to a world where you don't exist.
The past two companies I've worked for have had DEI committees that were started by low-level employees, not by some weird political government mandate. They included a mix of people who might be considered "diverse" as well as many "regular" people like me. These efforts were broadly supported by majorities of the company. People want DEI.
The government can ban DEI efforts within the government itself, it can bully spineless tech companies to do the same, but it can't remove this thirst for inclusion from my heart or anyone else's. It can and will try to deny you healthcare, deny you opportunity, make you invisible, rewind progress. But progress is hard to take out of people's hearts and minds and put back in a box. In 4 years (hopefully), we'll have someone else in charge, and I am going to be right here, ready to pick up where things left off.
And in the meantime, I got your back, as much as I can. I'm one person and I can't change or control a lot. But I can and will stand up for the people in my life, where I work and live. And I am not alone. You have allies out there.
That's all I wanted to say. You're welcome to share this with anyone who needs it. Keep being yourselves out there. Keep the memes coming. We'll get through this.
This was absolutely beautiful, thank you very much.
Even here in Canada the 2nd election of Trump caused the bigots to come out of the woodwork, swinging at any kids they can hit. My own was caught in that, and I've done my best to heal and protect and guide them as I can. I came out as non-binary in the middle of last year, and I'm in my 40's.
It's strange, in a horror-movie way, to have people walk up to me and casually insult my long (femm-y) hair, or the fact I'm quite thin. The only outward change I made was to add an accessory that is considered 'femme' or 'girly': dangling earrings, a bow in my hair, one time a pink scrunchy. Those tiny changes and people feel they have not just the ability, but that it's okay to walk up and pick it apart. I live in Vancouver BC, and we're considered pretty damn progressive*, so I cannot imagine what it's like in other places.
So thank you for being an ally, because gods above and below we need them right now. The US just put 30,000 people in concentration camps, and they're going after our poor poor children who are trans at every level. I'm scared, because I know that the fascists will lose. I know we'll beat them, that they'll stab each other in the back and get overthrown.
Yet how many children will we lose? To bullying, suicide, outright violence? I fear a quote from Susan Sontag is hanging over us like the sword of Damocles:
I oft find myself literally holding my breath to see what the, for lack of a better term, cishetero white guys are going to do. Because here in Canada they've voting Conservative, over 50% of them, from all age groups.
I'm going to fight, though. Against cops, the military, bigots, whatever I have to. I go to protests, strikes, sit-ins. There's a creeping realisation in the 2SLGBTQIA+ groups I know, that conflict is coming. Roughly half are dissociating, hiding, pulling away. The other half are mobilizing, reading the Simple Sabotage Field Manual, the anarchists cookbook. What we need though, are bodies, frankly, because it sure feels like we're outnumbered. Cishetero people in the streets blocking traffic, causing nuisance, forcing politicians to act.
I have a sign-off/goodbye message I say to my kids, and they've encouraged me to use it elsewhere so I will here.
You are loved❤️ Stay Queer
I feel obligated to advise that any copies of the Anarchists Cookbook online have been tampered with to be self harmful, and should not be trusted.
My understanding is that the most reliable resource on that topic is the us army's improvised munitions handbook. (though I haven't read it and probably wouldn't be able to understand it even if I had)