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I know it's a day late but I would just like to give out hugs to Eagle and his fam. It's hard enough to cope with fam ourselves but it breaks our heart to see what it does to our kids.
I found one of the hardest things coping with a dysfunctional family is how do I help young Miss Seagoon through this. How could I teach her what is and what isn't a healthy relationship.
I was super attentive about having an honest and very trusting relationship with her. I was always and still am always there for her. I was discreet, never saying mean things about people she loved, I let her see with her own eyes.
And now she is a older, can see all the people for who they are and is grieving the loss of good healthy relationships. She has a fair dose of anger too at how they treat her and me. Of course the dysfunctional fam are not sad at all, they see nothing wrong.
Hugs again to all our DTers.
Thankyou Seagoon. You really have a heart of gold. I am okay, the wounds have had a long time and lots of work to heal.
My son is an amazing kid, a deep thinker with a sense of self I envy but still full of love and compassion for his fellow humans. I hoped for a life without hardship for him, but like you've done, we've worked on looking at who shows up, who makes you feel loved and having open communication about what's happening in life.
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