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Hello, I am here. Never left just stopped posting. I was quitting smoking, since new years. I've been withdrawing, and all the lovely symptoms that go along with it have been wrecking me.
I made it to today and relapsed.
I don't want to die of cancer.
I WILL try again after this pouch. πͺπΌ
Ditch the pouch and pretend it didn't happen.
Quitting cigs is ridiculously hard. Can't remember how many tries it took me. Finally kicked it, but the first relapse isn't the end.
I'll try to.
This is the second time I tried. First time I made it 9 months. Just 9 days this time. But I can do it. It's only going to be healthier for me and my household.
You'll do it. The will is there, all else will follow. I think I went like 2 years and then picked it up again due to boredom at work. Stopped a few months later, only to start again like 3 years later. That lasted almost a year and I just stopped completely.
That makes me feel a little better tbh. Ive been beating myself up, because how did I make it 9 months but not this time?
Thank you ππππΌ
You made it as long as you could. It will happen until you just don't pick them up again. Shit's hard but not impossible.
Glad you're still around. I must admit, I was getting worried about you as well
I've never been in your position, so I don't want to offer useless advice. But I'm glad you're working on it as best you can. It's a hard habit to kick
Also, if I might insert my 2c: you made it 10 days. You've just proved to yourself you can do it. Sometimes it just takes a few goes. When my mum was trying to quit, the first time she made it 16 hours. The 2nd time she made it 2 days. Then 4. She "failed" every time, but AFAIK she's managed to break out now, and no longer smokes
Thank you Baku. It's one of the hardest things I've ever done. I thought losing weight would be hard, but that only took cutting out soft drinks and OMAD. This shit is insidious.
I'm really happy to hear your mum quit! That's fantastic! Besides, we only fail to quit when we stop trying to quit. She never failed, she succeeded!! Your advice is not useless and neither are you ππππ
Yeah. It sounds like I'm doing basically the same thing as you did with your weight loss. But I never really liked sugary drinks (with the exception of ginger beer), so I'm keeping up the occasional sugar free soft drink
You are bang on there, so it definitely sounds like you've got the right mindset. I'm not even going to cross my fingers you make it, because I know you will without it! β₯οΈ
ooh it's hard to kick.
I tried with vapes but realistically just replaced one addiction with another heh.
You got this but don't beat yourself up if there's a cheeky accident along the way.
Pouch? Bruh I say this with love: You fell off the horse and thats totally fine! but throw the rest out. Start now. every extra one you have after the relapse makes it so much harder to quit.
I STILL want a smoke 8 years later and I only ever smoked when drunk.
EDIT: the sting of throwing the rest out and "pissing the money away" might help reduce the urge to buy another too.
This is a great idea, I'll try! I've only had one so far and just had a cry in the bathroom π lol
I really appreciate your support and understanding.
Sending strength to Spud! A step forward, no matter how small, is still a step. The patches worked for me, just enough to take the edge off so smoking wasn't my only thought. It changed it to an every 5 second thought instead. 12 years free in April this year, and if I can do it, you can too.
Hey good to hear from you! hugs quitting smoking is the hardest thing I ever did (I smoked for 20+ years). Mr P finds it too hard, refuses to quit and keeps smoking (he's been smoking for 50+ years). Good on you for getting this far, it's often a case where you quit in sort of fits and starts before you quit for good. One thing I found really helpful was cutting down with a view to quitting. Over time I went from a pack a day to half a pack, to 6 cigs a day. Then I started to view it in terms of time. It took me 10 minutes to smoke a cigarette, so 6 smokes = 1 hour of the day spent smoking. I told myself, "stop complaining about not having enough hours in the day when you're wasting an hour every day!" Whatever works, the most important thing is to keep trying. Every time you try and don't succeed, you learn more about what your triggers were and what made you start again, so the next time you try I find you're more mindful and prepared and more likely to succeed. It took me about 15 goes before I was successful, so please don't beat yourself up too much about it. You'll get there!
This is so comprehensive thank you! I really appreciate your understanding.
The first time I made it 9 months, but this time only 9 days. I relapsed the first time when I went to get some drinks with mates and I had one of their ciggies π€¦πΌββοΈ
This time it's just my mental health, but if I can quit I can put that money towards actual therapy instead of this bullshit lol. But I will try until it fucking sticks. I want to be here for my cat and my partner.
nope. don't' do the full pouch. Cut that shit, smoke your day, then JUNK IT. give it to a neighbor, toss it on bin night, get rid of it.
You will slip up. it happens. Dont' keep it around when you do. it makes it easier to keep slipping
Quitting is hard. Every attempt teaches us something we can use for the next attempt, eventually you hit on the right thing that works for you.
Just don't use my Dad's method. He tried to quit once. It didn't work, so instead of trying again he just pretended he didn't smoke and spent years furtively sneaking off to smoke and buy cigarettes like a teenager. He somehow seemed to fool himself into thinking no one knew, even though it was incredibly obvious. It was bizarre, and meant that when he was finally forced to quit (when he was physically incapable of accessing cigarettes on his own) he had to go through the withdrawal alone and unsupported because he still couldn't admit he had been smoking the whole time.
I canβt speak as if Iβve had any experience with smoking but all the best and good luck!
Keep at it and never give up!
Hol' up.
so many hugs
You can do this. πͺπ»
Itβs ok, you can try again. It can be incredibly hard.
Good to hear from you, Spud.
The first step to change is realising that it would be good to change something. You can do it. Don't give up π
Saw the phrase somewhere, "I will one day, but not today."
Took me a hundred goes to quit, keep at it.