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Daily Discussion Thread: 🎆🎇🍻 Tuesday, 31 December, 2024 (aussie.zone)
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[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 15 points 7 months ago (7 children)

bro sent an email to ol' boy/girl last night. Basically a rant.. i'll write a list:

  1. Unfair that they can't force room changes.
  2. SIL is pregnant so they want an extra room for them when they visit (which is for a day or two a year).
  3. It's my fault they don't visit because I told them to fuck off when they tried to change sleeping arrangements last xmas.
  4. Family doesn't respect the fact SIL is pregnant (ol' boy who is in a related field hooked them with IVF and paid for it).
  5. Family doesn't respect their marriage (ol' boy paid for their wedding)
  6. That it 'hurts' they aren't getting their way (guilt trip about how bro would like to see them more but won't because they aren't bending to them).
  7. Because I'm not married they get to choose shit.

I predicted that they'd try and guilt the p's into changing shit just for them and blame me. Don't really know why I'm caught up in this.

Highly manipulative shit.

But why he sent that to the ol' girl is fucked. In early Jan she's about to find out if she's going to be totally blind. We're all stressing about that and there's bro pulling shit like this. She's stressed enough.

I swear SIL is pulling the strings.

I will not make them feel welcome next time I see them.

Thank you for listening :)

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 11 points 7 months ago

This mega pisses me off. In the vast majority of cases being knocked up isn't a great drama. Much sympathy.

[–] Eagle@aussie.zone 9 points 7 months ago

Some people......

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

omg, that's so shameful

and so many hugs and best wishes for your mum , that's just so sad

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 3 points 7 months ago

best wishes for your mum

Thank you it means a lot. It's been so rough on her last thing she needs is this crap.

[–] StudChud@aussie.zone 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Man, I wanna smack your bro and Sil lol. What narcissistic assholes 🤦🏼‍♀️

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 4 points 7 months ago

narcissistic

I think that's exactly what it is unfortunately.

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 7 points 7 months ago (2 children)

This is my take on this: Bro and wife have had heated words. She's thrown out a "your family treats us like shit and you don't stick up for me. Blah blah blah". He's left the room to write an angry email.

Ignore it. You've got more important things to deal with.

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago

I think you're right. Either that or she's "I'm going to get my way and you're not making it happen be a MAN'. Actually tempted to ask her point blank what role she's played in writing those emails. Bro was sending similar entitled shit when they were getting married lol.

[–] Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm going to agree with this. I've been pressured into something along these lines with friends, but then I dumped her.

[–] CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone 4 points 7 months ago

John and Yoko situation going on.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I don’t get why having or not having children is such a clout thing. And being empreggened means they get to be in charge or they have a tantrum? Sounds really entitled.

Is there a word like bridezilla but for this situation and both of them?

[–] Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 5 points 7 months ago

get to be in charge or they have a tantrum?

I think it's that but it was happening before expecting. Now it's next level entitled heh.

[–] Catfish@aussie.zone 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Mom/Dadzilla can be used after hatching. Breeder applies before and aft to a certain type of person who doesn't bother to Parent and just spawns.

[–] melbaboutown@aussie.zone 4 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It’s so weird how they think it makes them more important or higher in the pecking order.

I’d argue Bottom_racer contributes more to the family with the caregiving and should be more accommodated

As for them being ‘why they don’t visit’ that sounds blatantly manipulative

[–] Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone 3 points 7 months ago

WTF: 4. AND 5.

I just have too many bad words… In more than one language, LOL.

Methinks it’s a shame there wasn’t several different instances of 3.

HNY! 🎉 To less FWs in 2025.