I used to think I'm a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I've always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that's not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.

Recently I met someone new, she's a lot like me in her interests and even her style, and I learned she's transfem and that has made me question whether I might be trans myself. I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns for a bit to see how it feels, and I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns. So now I'm not sure if I am a guy or not anymore. I don't have any discomfort towards my penis and I do think I'd miss it if it were gone, but lately I have been getting discomfort related to my chest, it feels flat and empty, and wrong. Like it should be bigger than it is. It doesn't seem normal for a guy to feel like that.

I really need help, is it normal for a guy to feel like this or does this mean I might be trans?

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Nearly everything you've described is perfectly normal for both women and men, cis and trans.

I'm a trans woman. I don't really get femininity. I don't wear makeup, I don't have my ears pierced. I didn't have any desire to play around with gender non conforming clothes before I transitioned.

There is no such thing as a preference or behaviour that will tell you if you're trans or not.

What tells you if you're trans, is who you are underneath all of that!

I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns

That one is pretty unusual for most men and it's worth exploring, because it's the part of your comment most closely tied with your sense of identity and your sense of self.

And remember, you don't need answers right away. You don't even need labels. All you need is to give yourself permission to explore what works for you, and to help you understand yourself more.

[–] dipshit@lemm.ee 10 points 8 months ago

Yeah plus I learned that I do indeed have gender dysphoria from my chest, specifically it feels empty, like I should have breasts when I do not. I did a bit of reading on genderdysphoria.fyi and I think I can say with confidence that it's very likely I am trans.