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I have a problem with overthinking about things and events that occur or may occur as a result of something.
It's definitely one of the things that gives me a great amount of stress and anxiety.
I keep thinking about things and the possibilities and sometimes bad or unpleasant things that happen stay in my mind for quite awhile.
I don't quite know how to handle those feelings and what I should do.
It's been suggested that I just move past things and forget, or distract myself to take my mind off of things or I be more stubborn about my own feelings and harden up?
There's been other things, like for example I followed all the steps and did things as soon as I realised or possible and I still get blamed for not doing it soon enough and copped some barbed words, I know it wasn't my fault but still it bothers me. (That was what I was stressing about)
There's possibly more to come in the future as the problem hasn't come close to be resolved and I hope I don't keep thinking about what might happen.
Apologies for the rant.
This is very human behaviour, totally normal.
What helps me with this specifically is saying "What if it all works out?" or the similar inverse of whatever your worry is. "I might fuck up my interview and say something dumb" becomes "What if we get on so well, they toss out their questions and we just start chatting like old friends?"
It's not like 🕉️ woowoo positive ✨ mantras ✨and manifestation stuff. It's literally tricking you brain to make good chemicals instead of bad ones.
For awhile I spent some time with just a movie on in the background and I was scrolling through some happy posts.
Then I distracted myself with some food and a few rounds of Balatro.
Looking for something else to do for a bit then I’ll head to bed.
I think it’s just a bunch of bad stuff happening lately all at once that’s making me feel overwhelmed.