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:meow-hug: I'm so sorry you went through all that.I can't start because I'm not out to my family, who I live with. That's why I need to fix my shit and move. I'm legitimately very unsure if they'd allow it, and even if they did I think it would be extremely uncomfortable. Thank you for the link though.
I've never seriously tried, but yea it's always something my brain loves to jump to as well.
:meow-hug: I hope so. I can't imagine myself on hrt and happy with my body. All I know is I hate it right now and it's not like a "hit the gym more" issue.
You can be pretty secretive about taking hrt, it takes a while to kick in
Far better than bad stuff happening, and unironically if you're legit afraid of being homeless, message me. I'll find you a place. Might not be luxurious but it'd be enough to stay in for a bit.
I just need more time. Also reading some reports makes me nervous, like estradoll already needing to wear a bralet. Even a full year... I don't know if that's enough. Maybe I'm overestimating the amount of money I need to make to move. Hearing about how literally no one can afford to take care of themselves makes me very nervous.
:meow-hug: that is so nice of you. Hopefully I don't put myself in that position.
You could reasonably hide it for years with compression. Could also just play it off as weight gain
They make compression garments that look like tank tops, if someone asks, just say you're self conscious
Obviously do what you feel safe doing, just pointing out cissies are clueless and you'll kick yourself for delaying if you knew for sure you wanted it
That's surprising to hear, I thought it would be less then that. Isn't there some risk of damage from binding (or is binding different from compression) often?
I am already kicking myself for not realizing earlier, so I'm sure I will. I love regretting things
There is but only for longer than 8 hours.
I'm heavyset so maybe its slightly different but there is no way I'm showing at all and i've been on E the same amount of time as estradoll (high dose monotherapy, no AAs). Nobody has any clue that I haven't told explicitly. I spent 4 days at a cabin going swimming and stuff at a cabin with family that I'm not out to and got nary a sideways glance. Even once I am showing a little I'm confident nobody will assume HRT, just weight gain or smth. I can feel the difference, but visually its actually not there at all yet.
But yeah. Its for sure scary to do something like that without a plan. But you would have a lot of runway to figure one out if you did decide to. Hope you can get out on your own soon!
Personally, I went swimming topless two months in (taking a normal dose of Spyro and E, although my levels are far from ideal) at my parents and I'm not exactly out to them. Wasn't really anything they could have noticed. My step mom has been trying to get me to come out though, I think and even happened to ask me if I was trying to come out about my gender while I was swimming because of another topic I mentioned
3 months in, I feel like I'd be worried about swimming topless, but it I wouldn't worry about a snug shirt and definitely don't need a bra. I've always been overweight, so some fat there is normal for me. I did take my Spyro and E in the kitchen with them around today.
I know a streamer who lived with her parents for years, wore bras, had sizable boobs, and the parents didn't notice for the longest time. I think her dad found her bras or something by chance? Cis people who aren't accepting are also probably oblivious.