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This is an old throwback now: Does anyone remember me complaining about some "Mates" Who had kids and made some really distasteful "Jokes" back when we were still struggling ourselves? Something about throwing their baby in the bin or something cause he was frustrating them? Well, got a bit of an update on them.
Drama
They are struggling. Hard. Her mental health is in the bin, and he is pushed for time having taken a job that seems him out of the house from 5am till 6 or 7 pm. Add another kid to the mix and its not going well. he made a joke about "Needing more support". I laughed cause we also don't have family around us. But I think it was kind of a hint and I just.... fucking no chance. I didn't say anything, but there is NO way we're stepping into that mess.Almost everything that's going wrong was visible from a mile away before they made the decision. Her mental health is crap cause her family fucking suck, but she does running back to them every time. They threw a dog and another baby on top of the first one who I think has some development issues. The whole thing is a mess and i know it sounds cruel, but there's no way to help them without them trying to suck you into the vortex of their drama. I've made that mistake 2 or 3 times before, I'm not making it a 4th time. If you could just drop off a meal or babysit for a bit to help without hearing how horrible everything is and leaving feeling worse for having done a nice thing.. I feel sorry for them, but at what point do you go "You've kind of shot yourself in the foot there, can you please not bleed on my kitchen floor?"
It starts off a couple of hours of babysitting, ends up the whole day because of unforeseeable circumstances. I know a couple who drop their kid off at the in-laws for 4 hours so they can do the "shopping". Shopping right, yeah sure.
from what I understand getting her out of the house would be an achievement. But man I'd happily take the kids if it meant they could clean the house or something! I'm not one for judging, i've got a toddler I know its hard and our place is frequently a mess too. But theirs looks like the start of a hoarders episode. Trouble is their kid doesnt listen to them, so theres no chance I'm looking after a kid that cant/wont listen to me.
That's incredibly sad. I hope she gets the help she needs because that's no way to live.
yeah I hope so. But I dont think theres a diplomatic way to say "Hey I see you guys are struggling, I think maybe applying X Y and Z might help a bit" without being sucked in.
Yep. You'll either get told EVERYTHING or told to mind your own business.
They seem like the type of couple that don't think things out enough. Something new becomes something old very fast. Never content.
You're doing the right thing by staying out of it, as hard as it may be.
Youβre doing the right thing by staying out of it, as hard as it may be.
Cheers, I think I was looking for that even if I didnt know it.
Well, you help a mate out. You can't manage their life for them. You've got your own household. Cheers.
oh god, that's because the kid is hearing disrespectful talk and seeing disrespectful behaviour between his parents . π
Possibly, or its part of his development issue. its hard to tell. They keep saying they are seeking help with them, but ever time I ask they seem to be waiting for something.