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To give my particular enby insight:

When I first "accepted" myself as transgender, I identified as a binary trans woman. The first thing I grappled with is that I said "Well, I have gender dysphoria, and I'm AMAB, so that must be it!", but then a bit later, I started to go back and forth between trans woman and GNC cis man. I was like "Well, neither of those feel right. Why can't I just pick one?" I thought this was because my family was very transphobic, so I perceived it as a battle of wanting to be acceptable to them (cis man) but simultaneously wanting to be myself (trans woman), but it was larger than that.

The gender therapist I was seeing at the time in the process of me getting on estrogen took note of this, and she said “Have you ever heard of non-binary and/or genderfluid people?” At this point in time, I had heard of such identities, but I didn’t feel comfortable applying the labels to myself because I disregarded it as anything worth considering. Ironically enough, I used to not truly see enbies as valid and I was one of the most particularly enbyphobic people I’ve ever known.

Despite this, after enough thought and that feeling of “Neither of those feel right” intensifying with more and more awareness, I finally looked into non-binary people, and I learned tons more about them. The fact that struck me the most is that I found out that it’s still valid to be non-binary and experience gender dysphoria and undergo medical transition. Due to the fact that the myth that non-binary people are inherently non-dysphoric and never transition seemed a bit too prevalent, this fact was shoved under the rug in my mind.

After that, I took on a non-binary identity and later on proceeded with hormonal transition, and I’m going to get an orchiectomy soon as well. I hold myself to be genderless and I go by any and all pronouns, but I identify as transfeminine for the sake of describing the direction and nature of my transition.

Every trans experience is different, and such a range of diversity in experiences is especially common in enbies, but this is how I, in particular, distinguished myself from being a binary trans woman and a non-binary transfeminine person.