Relationship Advice

My (29M) online friend (30's F) has been flirting with me. She says her only intention is to boot my ego, but the way she is talking to be seems to be more than that. She will constantly message me and ask me to do things with her in game all the time. She also seems to want to know more about me, but any time I try and ask about her, she kind of brushes it off or changes the subject. She spent an entire day telling me that she had a crush on me (for a year??) and everything that she liked about me (the exact list will make this post too long). I really appreciate what she says, but I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster trying to figure out what exactly she wants. I have tried asking her, but it's usually either ignored or the subject is changed. I do not want to cut ties, because she is an integral part of the group of friends I play with and I don't want things to be awkward, but I really don't know how to move forward with this situation. Any advice, even if it's brutally honest, is welcome.

I’ve been making new friends recently and going out with them. One of the times a bunch of us (me included got really drunk). I was all over this one guy putting my arm around him and leaning towards him in between his legs while he was sitting down. I don’t remember if we kissed or if nothing else happened.

Anyway, we went out another time and he asked me if I thought we were going to fuck. I didn’t know what to say and said maybe, and he said that he thought we would, and then I agreed with him (because I do like him).

But now I keep thinking about that and wondering if I need to do something to make that happen. Like text him or something. I just feel nervous because I’ve never texted him before (we’ve only been in group texts together). And I feel like if I do text him I’m going to fuck it up, because this (having mutual interest with someone in person) has pretty much never happened to me before so I don't really know how to navigate the situation at all. Please help.

Several things going on here, and they all blend together.

• She really, really thinks she's ugly. Nothing debilitating I guess, but enough to scare me off talking about it.

• Apparently braces are a Filipino thing, for young girls. She's 54. Being Asian, she looks more like 40, still...

• I think the above stems from the vanity of showing, "I'm rich enough to afford dental care and braces make me look young."

• Her teeth are perfect. When we started dating I asked how much longer she would have to wear them (bottom teeth only). She laughed her ass off like I was so silly! Said it was a fashion thing.

• She's very fashionable, so I feel like mentioning the thing would be a direct assault on her self esteem. No problem saying this or that does or doesn't look good on her, but this feels way more personal than talking about a dress.

• Now that we've been together a couple of years, I'm scared shitless she will think I found her ugly this whole time. Despite the fact I worship the ground she walks on. Daily.

• No clue on the cost and we're broke ATM. Maybe wait till I have a good job again?

Before anyone says it, of course we can speak freely to one another, just a sticky case for the reasons outlined. I feel removing her braces is the one thing she could do to be more attractive, and that would be a pretty (heh) big deal. We both put in the effort to be attractive to one another, that's no big deal. But this one thing feels out-of-bounds, verboten.

Can't answer till tomorrow. She's off work in a minute.

My mom is 78 and she has been guilt tripping me to be her care taker. She is currently living with my brother to help raising his kids.

She constantly tells me once they are old enough, she will move in with me so that I can take care of her.

The thing is I don't know if I am capable. I can't guarantee the future.

I also don't want to shoulder the financial burden. She has money but she wants me to pay for her expenses so that she can leave (my brother's) a generous inheritance. She always tellsd me I won't get anything since 'i have no kids and I have enough money, and he needs more."

Now we are not talking. It hurts. Why can't she understand not everyone can be a caretaker? Why is she expecting me to help raising his kids indirectly?

26m, so I've been working with her for about a year (different areas, same place) and lately I've been realizing how much I care about her, which was crazy because up until now I've only ever been in relationships with/interested in men so I also found out I'm bi. once it clicked a couple weeks ago I think about her more often than I want to. I don't plan on pursuing a relationship with her because we really don't share all that much in common and aside from me being such a hermit outside of work and not mentally available to bring any life to a relationship, she has a boyfriend several states away. I'm happy for her that she does and I just hope he gives her all the time, respect, and care she deserves. I just want that to be the end of the story, like okay, drop it now please. I just don't know how to get her out of my head like this because I appreciate having her as a friend at work and it's good enough to have had the opportunity to get to know her like that. she just radiates kindness and positivity, she could boost anybody's day, she's just her own person and there's nobody out there like her, for real everybody cares about her and for good reason. just how can I care about her a little less? even if she was single, even if I was her type, I prefer to stay single regardless so it's all pointless but I just can't seem to beat that into my brain. If you got this far I appreciate you 🙏

My friend's brother (15M) wants to kill animals like rabbits and hamsters because he finds them stupid and annoying, is it normal that he wants to kill them? Keep in mind he doesn't, but he wants to. should i be concerned?

He decided he didn't want me anymore and it's clear he used me to be his caretaker who did stuff for him but he didn't for me, so why does he message me still??

I've been having conversations with the guy I like, Kieran. We're going somewhere in the beginning of August, but I wonder when it would be awkward/acceptable to send selfies? After the hangout?

So I (22M) am a single fella and I'm not used to be flirted with nor asked out. I was the type of guy not to get any girls as I was largely unnoticed.

One of my online friends who I've been talking to, "Ana" asked me out. I didn't know what to say, so I said "Sorry, no."

I felt really bad. In reality, I did want to be asked out, but I have no idea what to say or how to be a good boyfriend. How do I ask her out without being awkward??

i (20f) live with my dad and my two sisters. i feel like i have to obey the rules of my dad for obvious reasons. there's this boy (16m) my sister (15f) met and she's getting to know him. she recently asked him to hang out and he responded that he would love that.

however, my dad is very... weird about afab and amab people being together. his thinking is: guy and sister hang out -----> this means they are dating ----> guy will (somehow) get sister pregnant even when dad or i chaperone

title. how do i know if someone i dated actually wants to be my friend or if i’m just being used?? he doesn’t like me at all nor want me but he wants to talk to me so i can comfort him 24/7 because he’s always miserable. he never does stuff for me but he would always get really happy when i did stuff for him.

So, our sister (14F) has a school counselor, I believe, in her school. She is going to see her again this year. (We use we because we're plural).

The counselor says she cannot affirm the identities of people who are LGBTQ+, such as gay, bi, or under the trans umbrella. She also believes that being transgender is linked to mental illness and that she can't affirm people who are trans because it will "make their mental health worse" or something. The host is transmasc and when she referred to him as her brother, who happens to be trans, she said that he was really a girl and that in 2 years, he would "grow out of it".

In my opinion, it sounds unprofessional but I can't talk to anyone I know because they would agree with the counselor.

It makes me (18m) really sad when my bf (24m) is depressed. Sometimes he runs hot and cold and says he doesn't know if we should break up or not but then he says it feels right to be with me and he wants to stay.

Sometimes he doesn't like doing stuff for me even when I do stuff for him or doesn't like my interests much but wants me to like his. However, he can't do much of anything or talk right now because he's very depressed.

He's not like himself, and it's sort of making me feel depressed. How can I help without making myself extremely depressed too? I feel like I understand why he stopped doing certain stuff, and he says he can't show love for me like he could for his exes. He said it felt right to be my bf but that he didn't know if we should date.

I hate this. So I (18FtM) have a BF (24M) and he has been showing me less affection and not really taking an interest in my things or what I want to do. He doesn't really like my interests but it's okay, we've been getting along. Sometimes, he doesn't even know if he wants to be with me, but it's okay.

Meanwhile, I just met this guy (19M) earlier today and we're really hitting it off, although we just met. I'm starting to like him and IDK what to do because I like my boyfriend too and probably like him more.

My girlfriend says she doesn't like that I don't work and don't do anything to "develop myself". I have passive income that's more than enough for us to live rather comfortably in the city I live in. I pretty much support her at the moment, as well as myself, but she says she doesn't want to get a job because I don't have one, and that annoys her that I'll be able to sit at home and do what I want or just be busy with my hobbies.

I told her that I'm not forcing her to work, and even if she does work, she would only have to work like 2 days a week, not even a lot, but she says that it would bug her that I'm just sitting at home.

I get that she has the right to want someone who has ambition, but I also have the right to just live on what I have.

I told her that I'm willing to cook and clean and do most of the house work, but she says that she can do all of that by herself.

I'm assuming this is a Nobody Is the asshole situation?

Hey all, hope everyone is doing well.

I’m curious if anyone out there has made a conscious decision to not date or be in a relationship anymore.

If so, what was your rationale? Do you feel it was the right decision? If you’re currently considering it, why?

I made a throwaway so as not to clutter my main. I'm a bit sad but he doesn't want me to feel bad. He keeps me so he's not lonely, but he doesn't know whether or not he wants to break up and just strings me along, I guess. "I love you" one minute, "let's break up" the next. My mom says I'm being played, IDK.

I don't even know what we are because he keeps trying to walk out of the conversation and he doesn't care about my interests or what I want. I've tried talking to him, he says it's the way he is. Also, he gives me words of affirmation but apparently my brain says that's not enough. I don't know anymore. Just venting, ugh.

my bf insinuates we break up or saying he can't show affection for me, bringing up breakups, etc. he also seems kinda out of it a lot.

he'll say he's uncomfortable in the relationship (uncomfortable dating, not because of me, i don't think) or wants to make sure he'll be good for me but then says he doesn't wanna talk about it or just brushes it off and says he'll continue to date me and just deal with it because he likes me and without me, he'll have no one.

My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents' job to provide for the children. They shouldn't see children as retirement plan.

My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can't stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)

What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.

She needs to stop pressing my button.

I'm fully aware that only I myself can decide whether or not I'm bi, and I know I probably will eventually, but I recently broke up with my girlfriend because I realized her gender wasn't that attractive to me, and I wanted a boyfriend. Not a girlfriend. Men, I definitely prefer, and they're more attractive to me.

I thought she was attractive to me, but I view her as more of a sister or friend, which we are now (friends). Can someone help me out, please? I don't want to claim to be something if I'm not, but I'll still be an ally if it turns out I'm straight. (I'm a nonbinary genderfluid person so I'll still be LGBT).

i've posted here before. i'm in an mlm relationship with my boyfriend of only 3 months. he struggles with depression and is probably addicted to video games as his coping mechanism. he said he didn't know if he still loved me last night and that he didn't know if we should even be dating because people would see him as a bad bf.

he also said that most of the time, he feels excited and happy to see me and hear from me as i'm the perfect bf, but sometimes he feels nothing for me due to his depression or stress and that while he usually bounces back to being happy again, he knows in his heart he likes me. he says he wants to stay with me and doesn't want me to break up. i don't wanna have to either.

he also says that he can't feel love for me like he once could with his exes issac and gabriel due to trauma, although he still loves me. he barely makes time for me. sometimes he's busy, which i get, but for the remaining time, he has time but spends 99% of it on playing games and doesn't even "have time" to play games with me because he tends to put his interests first. he also said that he was a horrible bf, and that makes me sad, because he really isn't. he just isn't affectionate even if i ask him to because it's "the way he is".

i've mostly heard from others that his love for me is platonic or that he does have feelings for me, but doesn't know what he wants.

he says he wants to stay but then he said he doesn’t know if he has feelings for me and if we should date, then he says he really likes me and wants to date, and when i asked him for clarification he just told me he wants to sleep.

he doesn't wanna end things either but it makes me sad sometimes how he acts and what he says

(i’m going to sleep too, will answer in the morning)

i posted this to get any advice i can get. he and i (both men) have only been together for 3 months but i really love him and want to support him. he's had a hard life and struggles with mental health and always feeling empty or depressed. sometimes, i watch his streams and ask about the game he's playing, and i don't even mind that he plays video games to cope or plays them at all, but he barely talks to me. we are long-distance, too, so i can't go visit him in-person. he doesn't really have time to talk due to playing his game and doesn't wanna stop and be affectionate or talk or anything when he's busy with the game. he does it constantly to the point where literally all he does is game and we barely talk from it, idk what to do.