Transfem

Honestly don't have much to say. Just want to show how much I love my trans sisters and give you virtual flowers, since I can't physically give you real flowers. <3 🪻🌹🌷🌷🌹🪻🪻🌹🌷🌷🌹🪻🪻🌹🌷🌷🌹🪻🪻🌹🌷🌷🌹🪻🪻🪻🪻🌹🌹🌹🌷🌷🌷

hey does anyone have any progesterone suppliers they can recommend? been on e for a several months now but im looking to also start prog. i wasn't too sure about any of the links on hrtcafe tho...

Hello friends,

I’ve decided to start a series of posts sharing the true stories of queer refugees. I really want to create a clear and honest picture of what life is like for LGBTQ+ people in refugee camps like Kakuma and Gorom. I hope this will help the community understand us better not just what we go through but who we are. I believe storytelling can build connection, awareness and trust.

My name is Cyara Kaira. I’m an Ugandan transgender woman and a passionate human rights defender. I’ve survived violence, displacement and isolation not because I broke the law but simply because I dared to live as myself. My journey into exile began in Kakuma Refugee Camp, Kenya. I arrived there after fleeing Uganda where being trans can mean imprisonment, torture or sometimes death. I thought Kakuma would be a place of safety but instead it was another battlefield of trauma. In Kakuma, LGBTQ+ people are treated as if we are not human. I lived in constant fear. One night a group of men attacked us and tried to burn down our shelter. The trauma from that night still lives in my bones. I wasn’t sure we’d survive. This happened several times where queer refugees were usually stoned, cut with machetes and burned to death. It is on record that we have been losing lives starting from new born babies.

The camp had no support system for queer refugees. We were left to fend for ourselves and punished when we tried to speak out : ( I was threatened to be killed by the head of police ( OCPD) of Turkana region simply because i stood up for others. Remember this wasn’t me at all I didn’t wake up one time and thought that I can one time battle with some government institutions or UNHCR simply because they failed to respect even the basic human rights. They turned me to who I am today. A lot of transphobia happened to me and my fellow queer refugees that really forced us to flee to South Sudan. Now you might ask why of all countries near Kenya. The neighboring countries of Kenya were Tanzania, South Sudan and Uganda my home country which almost the leading country in world for criminalizing LGBTQ individuals. South Sudan was the nearest to the Kakuma refugee camp.

Here is a link of PinkNews about me and the life of transgender refugees in Kakuma. It was taken some years ago but I believe it can also add to the story I am talking about.

We fled to Gorom a refugee settlement in South Sudan. It was meant to be safer. But the truth is even here life remains uncertain and painful. Literally the same and here also the government is really strictly against us. We are because of UNHCR’s advocacy and also UNHCR cannot do more if the government speaks. I really have a very long story that I can tell for days.

In my next post, I’ll share what it’s like for queer people living in Gorom how we survive, what we lack and how we care for one another.

Thank you for reading. And thank you for seeing us.

CyaraKaira

Heya! I’ve been looking into getting an orchiectomy, but I’m having a really hard time finding a surgeon. I’m located in Arizona, USA. Does anyone have any tips or recommendations?

Hello everyone I really wanted to make this update. 4 days back we got shelter for me and my sisters and some other queer refugees. My sis Tash will be updating the fundraiser soon. Huge thanks to everyone who really supported us out of the situation in the camp. But now we have one challenge left is that we don’t have beddings such as mattress, blankets and mosquito nets. the shelter is quite empty. We really want to prevent the risk of diseases. Malaria is so much common and pneumonia due to so many mosquitoes and cold winds during the night. We have most vulnerable people who have HIV and some kids. That need immediate attention because of their condition. The shelter is very cold at night. The other challenge is that we don’t have food honestly and we are at risk of starvation yet we have some who have to take medication on a daily basis and also require a balanced diet. Please consider sharing and supporting us through the support link on my profile. Or here

https://gofund.me/bd40a4f9

Thank you so much

CyaraKaira

I just started HRT a couple weeks ago and I've noticed that my nose is the clearest it's been in my adult life. I always used to have some resistance when breathing through my nose and I had a perpetually runny nose, but basically the day after starting HRT it was much better and I even sound less nasally when I talk. I was just wondering if anyone else noticed something similar. I'm doing estradiol injections and oral progesterone.

Well, it finally happened to me. Somehow I now feel like crap for having a dick. I knew that at some point I wanted to get bottom surgery, but it hasn't been because I desperately wanted to cut of my dick and felt shit because I still have one, but because I knew I wanted a vagina. Yesterday evening it turned around and now I feel absolutely miserable for still having one. Why does my brain has to make my life even harder than it already is? This type of Dysphoria is kind of a next level. It (at least currently) doesn't really go away and noticing The source of my Dysphoria every time I move is next level crap.

Just wondering what moments of gender euphoria or joy you have experienced, was hoping we all might enjoy hearing some positive stories!

I'll start: today, I went to my laser hair removal place to reschedule an appointment and nobody was at the front desk, and after waiting for a while I went to use the ladies room and ran into a woman even taller than me who immediately called me gorgeous and then proceeded to compliment my makeup, earrings, and hair. I was like a deer in the headlights, simply stunned as if I had slipped into an alternate universe where this complete stranger was actually a close friend and I had forgotten. Nobody is that nice to me, let alone a stranger.

Anyway, women can be so wonderful, and this moment made me grateful to be a woman. 😊

That said, my movements weren’t perfect because of brain damage, and I was certainly out of shape, but I had a really good time.

Hello everyone It’s been 19 days since I last posted. I’ve been very sick and deeply depressed. I just didn’t have the strength to even hold the phone. I have been suffering from Malaria, typhoid and ulcers for almost 2 weeks now. I am really writing to inform you that we are in danger.

I’m Cyara, a trans refugee in South Sudan. It’s me and 3 other trans sisters. Ever since the government came out told us to leave the camp and live in Juba city life became really horrible. It told us that it would forcefully evict us. Imprison or deport us. The deadline past weeks ago. They haven’t reacted as they said. But now the community has started attacking us. Refugees and host communities are now beating and promising to cut us with machetes. Besides physical violence now they have resorted to threatening to kill us. They say we are against their culture, religion and laws.

We are trying to raise money to relocate to safety even just temporary shelter. We’ve raised a little but it’s nowhere near enough. We urgently need support shares, donations, any connection that can help.

I know many people are struggling but if you can help us even in a small way it could save lives. I’m open to a voice or video call to share more. Please we really need your support.

The support link is on my profile.

Thank you so much

What is something you learned or experienced from being trans that you wish you knew pre-transition, or that you wish cis people knew?

I'll go first: the temperature differences when going from testosterone-dominance to estrogen-dominance is not just real but significant, my body just puts out less heat and I feel colder much easier now even when otherwise maintaining a high metabolism, eating in excess, etc.

It may have just been my trans denial before, but I really wanted to believe that the difference was not that great and I was wrong.

What's something you wish people knew?

I missed this news somehow (the article is from July 1st):

A judge has thrown out the case of a 20-year-old trans woman who was arrested in Florida for washing her hands in a women’s bathroom.

Prosecutors reportedly failed to meet the deadline for filing charging documents against Marcy Rheintgen after she was arrested while protesting the state’s anti-trans bathroom ban. A Leon County judge granted her lawyer’s motion to dismiss the misdemeanor trespassing charge.

In case you didn't know the background:

In March, Rheintgen informed Florida lawmakers of her plan to enter the state’s Capitol building and use the restroom, even including a photo of herself so they knew who to look for. She never thought police would actually arrest her, despite the fact that the move broke the 2023 law.

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Nevertheless, two cops met her at the restroom, but she decided to go in anyway. At first, they told her they would just give her a notice to appear before the judge. But they then reported she became “sassy” and indicated she may use the women’s bathroom again, so they arrested her.

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Florida’s bathroom ban criminalizes anyone who uses a toilet or changing facility that doesn’t match the sex they were assigned at birth. It applies to public schools, universities, parks, prisons, and other government buildings but not to businesses and healthcare facilities.

The law only applies to facilities run by the state, but transgender and nonbinary Floridians have nonetheless been confronted, harassed, and intimidated in public restrooms located inside private businesses.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28783084

How trying to define ourselves or others define us by assigned sex at birth doesn't serve us and is generally oppressive and incorrect, both scientifically and socially.

So I bought myself some Makeup. Got some mascara, two differently colored pouders, some brushes and sponges and some eyeshadow.

So I tried doing some stuffs and even tho it was barely visible at all I really liked it. Especially the mascara and hiding my more rough parts of my skin a bit looked very much. This is devinetively the most euphoria i felt in literal weeks. Now I also finaly understand why cis girls do quite a lot of makeup. Its literally because it looks good. I never understood this as a guy.

I devinetively have to do this more often, so that eventually I gonna be able to create Makeup that actually looks good enough to go out with (fucked up quite a bit on this one so (you ccould easily spot the makeup) removed everything except the mascara before going out).

Girl Subscription Pill Monotherapy Under Tongue. 6 months after leaving the intro level dose.

Edit: Seeing

Seriously: Where the hell do people get HRT in like 3 months or so? Here it takes around 10-12 months waiting on a list to get HRT.

hi… i’m Cyara a trans refugee in South Sudan. i’ve been really sick suffering from Malaria,typhoid and ulcers. Also within the same time, I got a very painful big cut on my finger. I had to go to a clinic and thanks to a few kind strangers who donated, i was able to cover the bill. But it left us with nothing.

it’s just me and my 3 trans sisters. we’ve been through hell here and now the government is evicting us. one of my sisters has broken completely under the pressure. she’s not okay. none of us are.

we’ve only raised $121 out of $720 for emergency shelter. i know the world is exhausted. i see what’s happening in Texas, in New Mexico, everywhere and my heart breaks. but i still need help too. just one last chance to survive.

please don’t scroll past this. please help us. share if you can. donate if you’re able. message me if you want to hear our story ’m open to a voice or video call. we’re real people who are really scared. we just want safety : ((

https://gofund.me/bd40a4f9

I'll go firstt:

1: Regularly thinking that girls got all the cute clothes
2: Buying female clothes (skirt and some underwear) for "cross dressing"
3: Feeling physical pain when having to put off bought female clothes to go outside
4: Imagining yourself as the women in porn (that's why I at first though I was "just gay")
5: Being sad when thinking about trans people and realising I couldn't transition because I'm not trans
6: Absolutely suppressing every form of thought when thinking about "the trans topic" (in a way that sometimes I reflected myself and thought that I may be trans, but I 100% suppressed those thoughts knowing damn well, that this wasn't that much of a good strategy. This also included the thought "acts trans, looks trans, probably is trans", that crossed my mind after taking LSD for the first time)
7: Dissociating kinda regularly. Happened usually when reading fantasy books. Didnt realise it was dissociation until like 3 weeks ago

Probably missed some stuff but those are the most significant ones. Quite a lot of stuff are signs that appears around the last year or so.

I've been a lurker in this community for a long time, and I've thought about posting with long diatribes talking about how being in the closet and not feeling free to be yourself is soul-crushing and how terrible I feel sometimes, but tonight I wanted to make a post about how today when I stopped to get a coffee the girl behind the counter told me she liked my (shoulder-length) hair and that it suited me, and then gave me an extra espresso shot for free. I'm fighting hair loss and while it might not be the most obvious thing to others, it feels very obvious to me and I'm incredibly insecure about it.

As someone who at BEST presents like a queer guy, maybe she was just into me or being nice, but for a few moments, it felt like I got to be part of the girl club and it made me tear up a tiny bit as I walked away from the shop 🥲 (and also, who doesn't like a compliment from a pretty girl???)

I bought purse myself, had one bought online but has broken zipper, now bought one myself in store and I'm out drinking mojito. I feel happy <3

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28396843

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/28390305

Hi friends, My name is Cyara, and I’m a transgender refugee living in Gorom camp, South Sudan, along with other queer community members. We came here after fleeing severe persecution and violence in Kakuma refugee camp in Kenya where many of us were harassed, attacked, and denied safety.

We thought we would be safer in South Sudan, but here too we face discrimination, abuse, and daily threats. Then, on June 20th, the government gave us an eviction deadline: leave the camp or face prison. They gave us no plan, no support, just a deadline. That day came and passed. We are still stuck, scared, and exposed.

I know posts like this can feel overwhelming but please believe me when I say: this isn’t easy to write. I’m not trying to guilt anyone. I’m just desperate to get help for me and my sisters.

We are trying to raise $1500 USD to rent a shelter in Juba for 3 months, to house 8 of us while we try to find longer-term safety. We’ve raised $121 so far I’m grateful beyond words for that, but we’re still far from safety.

Please — if you can’t donate, just boost this post. Share it. Let people know we exist. That alone could save a life. Also please mods, my cause was really verified by Qaz. Please don’t take it down. I can still verify my situation

So to all of you that wonder what clothes to wear to appear more feminine, I have found a quite good method:

Just look what cis girls wear. Literally, just look at them and try to learn what style they use and try to adopt it. This way I learned more about women's fashion than watching any of the guides I found online. Sadly I have not been able to adopt a lot of this knowledge into my wardrobe due to clothes being expensive, me being insecure about what I can wear outside (I used to (and still do) always wear simple clothing, so its hard as hell to find something that I could see myself wearing outside, even tho I think all of those flower skirts and similar stuff looks cool as hell) and me being to lazy to go to a second hand store to get some stuff (I will report back when I managed to do that).