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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/FrancisWalker01 on 2025-07-08 01:15:09+00:00.
Truly valuable and well-said comment from u/SafetyLeft6178 on u/AdAdorable7651's r/amIoverreacting post. This advice is essential, I believe many can gain awareness from.
Here’s some of u/SafetyLeft6178 advice to ensure your safety and for your own piece of mind:
• Write down everything you remember about your stalker, every piece of information about them, name, birth date, other personal details such as place of birth, where they lives, what they do for a living, education, things they told you about their family, what they looks like, hair color, eye color, rough height, weight, build, glasses, every tiny bit if informarion you can think of, however unimportant you think it might be.
• Then write down the dates and times they came to visit to the best of your ability, bonus points if you know their exact flight numbers, departure and arrival airports (if international)
• Then write down the dates you met up, where, what times, who you were with, who has seen you together
• Now write down all the bad stuff, the stalking, where did they show up, when, why (according to them), the stated purpose, all the abuse, what they said, what you said, extra focus on threats from them and you telling them no or expressing fears and concerns
• Screenshot all messages you can find between the two, specifically mark the ones that depict abuse or other concerning things and you telling them no or that you don’t want them near you or wherever they was
• Collect documentation of you moving and changing numbers, as much as you can find, bonus points if anything even so much hints at you doing it because you felt scared
• Now collect screenshots of you telling other people about their stalking and your fears if you have any
• Write down the names of people who know about or witnessed the stalking and/or saw how it affected you and/or know or witnessed you going out of your way to get away from them by changing numbers and moving
• Write down the names, and collect any evidence like the screenshots you’ve posted here, of them trying to get in contact within your circle in an effort to get information on you
• Collect all of that either in paper or in a folder on your computer, put it in a zip-file you can easily email or on a USB drive
• Once you’ve done all that, find your nearest KMar location and call the number to make an appointment to file a police report
• It’s important to do this with them and not your regular police to maximize the chances they will be turned around when they try to fly in, because they’re the ones making the decision and this helps to increase the chances it’ll pop-up on their screen when making that decision, besides, it’s within their purview because they are trying to cross the border to commit crimes, making it their business, emphasize they only flew in to harrass and stalk you if you need to
• Don’t worry about feeling silly about it or that it’s not serious enough or anything and don’t even dare to feel ashamed or blame yourself in any way, bring what you’ve collected, tell them the story from A to Z and let them decide
• Getting a restraining order there is a bit less straightforward than here in the US, but it’s definitely doable and there are free or near free government funded options to get it done, there’s at least a government funded organisation with locations all over that can give you tailored advice entitely for free on if it’s possible and how to get it done (varies by location)
Whatever the case, you’re not overreacting, your safety is paramount, people suck, be safe, you’ve got this, don’t doubt yourself, this too shall pass and will become a distant memory, you’re strong, take care.