[Migrated, see pinned post] Casual Conversation

Hey,

I live in a small town in europe, built a house and well it takes me about 25 minutes to the next bigger city (not huge one, lets say 50.000 people live there.

I sometimes find myself getting frustrated because the next gym is 7 minute drive by car to another smaller town. Grocery shopping I also do in another town nearby. Same people, same stuff, nothing new.

I am thinking about selling my house but I love the quiet area too. I love my freedom in my house and yard and I know everyone in town but nobody has my interests.

I can't just go to board game nights, meet many people in a bar, go shopping, go to a cafe and all that. I always have to drive those 25 minutes first.

But would I do all those things I wrote above if I'd live in the city? A few friends live in that city and say everything is so expensive and they do the same as I do (same gym, same grocery, same routine) just in the city.

But I feel like I am missing out.

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I tried looking at the reviews for a monitor, and when I clicked "see more reviews" I got redirected to a page asking me to login and to provide my mobile phone number (which I didn't do for privacy reasons).

On Instagram I was confused at everyone else mentioning Instagram stories because I only have the option of uploading pictures and videos. Then I found out that it's something you can only do if you use Instagram on a phone... I swear I've came across a few sites that wouldn't even let you sign up if you were using a PC

I only ever browse social media on a PC and that's the way it will always be. Sometimes I can't help but feel like desktop/computer users are becoming an afterthought. Anyone else have similar feelings? 🫠

It's beyond me why anyone would let this man anywhere near this job. Also, people want him back again? Anyone who likes him is not to be trusted. The country and the world cannot take any more of the ventriloquist comedy of Jeff Dunham.

Asking this here because it might be a strange question or open for debate.

A habit that I have carried over with me from Reddit is subscribing to every community that I think I'll be participating in. But I'm kinda thinking of unsubbing from all of the news and politics communities that are always in the 'All' tab anyway and keeping my subscriptions to everything other than news and politics. I'd still like to throw in hot takes / shit takes if I feel so inclined but want to seperate it from my main feed.

My question is, is it frowned upon to participate somewhere that you're not subscribed to if it's not going to be once in a blue moon? Or a hassle for moderators? I've looked up if there's a Lemmy equivalent of multireddits and from what I can surmise in this Github thread, people are still spitballing ideas but nothing concrete yet. So it seems that method is out of the question for now.

Edit: just had another thought that I don't want to make another thread about but need to get off my mind. From an app perspective and the Subscribed / Local / All tabs, and comparing that to a place like Bluesky with all the different feeds that you can add or remove, it would be nice if you could have tabs that are specific to instances. For example adding a Blåhaj tab from here in the .world instance I'm signed up on. Basically accessing the 'Local' feeds of other instances from one place.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20763011

Could be one specific task or just in general.

Nice story I wanted to share, seen on https://old.reddit.com/r/CasualConversation/comments/1i092q3/my_dad_accidentally_became_famous_in_our/

My dad is super quiet. He doesn’t like talking to people, skips parties, and just wants to read books by himself. So I was pretty shocked when I found out he’s kinda famous now.

A few months ago, he built a birdhouse in our yard. Then he made another. And another. Now, our yard looks like a little bird village with tiny houses everywhere.

People around here started noticing and coming by to check it out. One day, someone knocked on the door and asked if they could take a picture of the birdhouses.

My dad said sure, and now people stop by all the time to take pictures and say how cool his yard is. It’s crazy!

Did you already get your hands on the new Super Comics?

In this issue named "Unlimited number of coins", evil Scrooge McDuck from Multiverse with help of Rafans used a magical mirror from Magica to enslave a whole city Duckburg and steal all other Money Bins from different universes into big Giant Money Multibin which consists of others smaller Money Bins and is so huge, that blocks sun from Duckburg.

As the plot progress, Uncle Scruggs from different universes, countries and historical epochs unite, stop fighting between each other and start to cooperate.

With help of Gyro inventor, they manage to break into multiverse and fight against evil McDuck to get back their money which were stolen from them.

In the end, they invoke huge Donald Duck army which defeats the Rafans and they pacify the evil multi-verse McDuck.

He then breaks down as he valuated only the money and the balance in universe is restored. Money Bins are returned and Uncle Scrooges go back to their universes to continue work on their own local Duckburgs and protect them against evil Rafans and enemies.

The plague of NIMBY's may yield if a real plan is put in place to rebuild better. Vast areas could be rezoned for density. A way of addressing the enormous number of displaced people could also address the largest homeless population in the USA. The city that defines urban sprawl could be redefined. How does this play out?

Defeatism, cynicism, doomerism, essentialism, materialism, anti-intellectualism, consumerism, and cruelty are everywhere on the Internet... and I'm just not into it anymore.

I used to buy into self-limiting beliefs because I thought they were answers from people with more life experience than me, but they just limited my thinking and led me astray. They were why I was insecure and unhappy. They were why I was doing nothing to make my life better.

Once I started to push back on all of the Internet's supposed "wisdom," I figured out that my fundamentally flawed beliefs were paralyzing me from actually doing anything with my life and being brave enough to take risks, especially socially. I'm noticeably happier, I've developed a positive life outlook, and I'm more comfortable in my own skin because I stopped getting my opinions from the Internet and started thinking for myself.

I recognized that others' opinions don't define reality. Opinions are the result of someone's life experiences filtered through their brain. They may have some value, but they are often incredibly biased and should not be taken as gospel. If you take them all seriously, you will be riddled with insecurities in no time flat, subconsciously trying to appeal to people who you don't even like and would never be friends with.

I honestly can't say I know who social media is even for at this point. There is so much content promoting unhealthy ways of thinking just haphazardly strewn about everywhere. I don't know how anyone can avoid it all. I don't know if the benefits can outweigh the costs. Even the most harmless content is forgettable and eats up valuable time that could be used for something more meaningful.

Sometimes I think about how we never see any posts from the happiest people alive. They don't need social media validation, their positivity wouldn't generate clicks, and the negativity of social media platforms probably scared them off long ago. As a result of their absence, negativity and unhealthy thought patterns have proliferated unchallenged.

I feel like I don't even belong on the Internet anymore. I can't relate to all of the doomers and cynics. The constant firehose of simultaneous anxiety and apathy, the lack of introspection and empathy... what use do I really have for it all at the end of the day? It's getting so old and stale. I feel like I can't grow as a person anymore if I continue consuming Internet slop.

There are so many, much more constructive ways I could be spending my time. If I should be using the Internet for anything, it would be to aid me in doing that. For example, finding good books to read. I can't wait until I finally overcome my behavioral inertia and move on with my life.

Let's all play geoguesser together, post your score for this round.

No movement, no time limit, panning and zooming allowed.

https://www.geoguessr.com/challenge/p75TGlwyNnzHipLE

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I moved into a new apartment. It's furnished, clean, chill. Also I break out in hives when I lay in bed with the fresh bedding provided to me. Currently washing a blanket but I've just ruled that one out as a cause. I'm out of detergent for washing the remaining sheets and snowed in. I think I'll sleep in this chair :)

Apparently, the PC I was given by my employer less than a year ago is too out of date (uses Windows 10) and I have to have Windows 11 now for security reasons. I have a gaming PC, but it's my partner's, too, and it'd be a huge waste of its power and graphics card, plus it'd have to be moved. I really don't want to do that.

A new company owns the company I work for now, but still. This is not what I agreed to. Ugh. I'm so annoyed.

It's not that expensive, really ($200), but it's the principle of the matter. How long will it be before they force me to do this again, anyway??? I already get paid a shit wage.